South Africa: Innocent Ntiyiso Shivambu

I am Innocent Ntiyiso Shivambu, residing at Dan Extension 2 under Greater Tzaneen Municipality, and my story goes as follows: I'm the firstborn child at home, aged 33, and I have 3 siblings aged 30, 23, and 16 (we are orphans) and 3 kids (2 girls aged 14 and 6 years and 1 boy aged 4), and the second one is a boy, and he has a wife (Misola), who happened to abuse me emotionally and financially. So before she came to the family, my brother and I had a very strong bond, and she crushed all that because she started talking bad about me, and she would ask for money and didn't see the need to return it, and she would tell her husband lies about me, and the husband would sometimes assume I'm the problem and I don't like his wife. There was this time where she told people that I have a snake that gives me money and I'm not doing anything with the money, and my kids and the lastborn are dirty. If I could give her money, she would do a better job of taking care of them, unlike what I'm doing according to her. People would gossip about me when I passed by because of what she told them, and she tells everyone she meets lies about me. If I happen to buy something, people who didn't see me would know that today she wore a new dress, etc., and that made me feel broken to such an extent that it made me lose my confidence and self-esteem that I was sometimes afraid to interact with people because I felt like they would talk about me. I remember one day my kids went to her place to visit, and she took her kid to her mother's house and left my kids alone there without food, but she can bring her child to my place for the whole week, and I was expected to feed them and take care of them. When her husband was not working, I was the one who was making sure that they had something to eat, but the minute the husband started working, they started distancing themselves from me, and when my kids ask something from them, they tell them to go and tell their parents or just say yes so that they can leave them alone. When I was pregnant with my lastborn, the day my husband borrowed my brother's car, my water broke, and when I called him, he took his time until I gave birth in the street, trying to get help, and Misola got something to talk about to the community and acted like she felt sorry for me. When people started asking me why you gave birth in the streets, I was so heartbroken because I didn't think she would disclose such information. We go to the same church, and when she does something wrong and they ask her why you did this, she will say my sister-in-law didn't tell me or she made me do this so that she should look like a better person at my expense. Sometimes when I'm supposed to do something, e.g., lead the service, she would rush and start before I arrived, like everything I'm doing, she's competing with me, and I was not aware until she messed up and started blaming me. What makes me laugh is that whenever it involves money, she won't compete; it will be like she is not there. This time we were supposed to go and pass our condolences to this other member, and I told her that let's meet at the family at 12, and she didn't come and told her husband that I left her behind, and I was hurt because she is developing this kind of hate between my brother and me and destroying the bond we have, and I feel like my brother is left in an awkward situation where he had to choose between me and the wife.The way they treated me, I believe that if I can start and grow a business, it could help me to mind my business. I won't have to ask anyone to assist me sometimes, and I would start minding my business and get out of people's businesses.