South Africa: Pretty’s Journey: From Shadows to Strength

Background 

My name is Thalita Maleka, Provincial Coordinator for the Sisonke National Movement in Gauteng. My work goes beyond administration—it is deeply personal. Every day, I walk alongside sex workers, advocating for their rights, safety, and economic empowerment. These are individuals society often leaves behind, yet they carry stories of resilience and courage. 

This story is about Pretty Mothibe, a young sex worker from Donkerhoek, Tshwane. Donkerhoek is an informal settlement where access to services is scarce and stigma runs deep. For women like Pretty, survival often means navigating violence, economic control, and emotional manipulation. Her scars—both visible and hidden—tell a story of hardship and strength. 

The Turning Point 

Pretty’s life began to change during one of our Creative Space sessions focused on Gender-Based Violence (GBV) and Economic Independence. These sessions are safe spaces where sex workers can share experiences, learn about their rights, and access support without fear of judgment. 

Initially, Pretty was withdrawn. She avoided engagement, kept her pain hidden, and rarely spoke about the violence she endured. But something shifted during this session. As other participants and staff opened up about their vulnerabilities, Pretty found the courage to speak. For the first time, she told her story—her truth. In that moment, she reclaimed her voice and began a journey of empowerment. 

What Changed 

Through sharing her experience, Pretty broke the silence imposed by stigma and discrimination. She left the workshop with knowledge of available services for GBV survivors, even for those in sex work—a critical step toward safety and healing. Sometimes, empowerment begins with awareness and the confidence to seek help. 

How This Change Happened 

The transformation was not instant. It came through trust, consistency, and creating spaces where vulnerability is met with compassion. Our GBVF-focused engagement encouraged openness, and Pretty realized she was not alone. She saw that her pain mattered, her voice mattered, and her future mattered. 

Evidence of Change 

Pretty has committed to attending our follow-up workshop on mental health support for victims and survivors. This is more than participation—it is a sign of hope and resilience. As Provincial Coordinator, I will ensure she receives continued support and remains connected to resources that foster healing and empowerment. 

Sustainability and Next Steps 

Our work does not end here. We will continue to create safe spaces, strengthen partnerships, and advocate for systemic change. For Pretty and countless others, these interventions are lifelines. They remind us that empowerment is not a one-time event—it is a continuous process of building trust, knowledge, and community. 

Why This Story Matters 

Pretty’s journey is a powerful reminder of why we do this work. Gender-based violence is not just a statistic—it is a lived reality for many women, especially those in vulnerable positions like sex work. By amplifying voices like Pretty’s, we challenge stigma, demand justice, and create pathways to dignity. 

Call to Action: 
Join us in the fight against GBV. Support initiatives that protect and empower sex workers. Together, we can turn shadows into strength. 

By: Loyiso Saliso.